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What You Focus On Grows

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In life when we want something different than what we have we must undergo a shift in our thinking and behavior to get there. It’s the chicken and the egg.

What comes first? Most of us have to start from the bottom. To get from the bottom to the top, we have to drench ourselves in stories about the top. We have to see ourselves at the top. We have to visualize what it feels like to be at the top.

The reason for this is the law of attraction. In other words, what we focus on grows.

If a person is broke, it is most likely they are telling themselves a constant narrative about being broke. They feel broke. They think about being broke. Feelings become thoughts which become things. This person will tell everyone what they can’t afford. They will attract other people and events in their lives that have an aura of “scarcity.”

If all a person talks about is being stressed, sick, broke, tired, and taken advantage of–that’s exactly what will happen. A person will attract things that make them stressed, sick, broke, tired and taken advantage of.

Did you know we are essentially a blend of the five people we spend the most time with? Think about that for a minute.

If we are feeling fat it’s most likely that we will continue to exhibit behaviors that reinforce that feeling. We will eat unhealthy food, won’t push ourselves when exercising, and we will continue to tell a story of fat.

Basically to achieve what we really want–underneath layers of ego and denial–we have to tell ourselves we’re already there.

If we are not wealthy, we must tell ourselves we’re wealthy to create an aura of plenty. If we are not at our goal weight, we must do things that make us feel sleek and beautiful even if we don’t necessarily feel that way all the time.

We must act “as if.”

After months of telling a new story the texture of life will begin to change.

A journey of change is never a straight shot. We make progress and fumble taking a few steps back. Then we get back up and continue in the direction of the dream.

If you want to change your life, you need to change that story. Start by being 5% more aware of what you say out loud. Look at the events and people in your life, and your reaction to those events and people. What is your state? Our friend Tony Robbins says if you want to change your life you must change your state.

He’s right.

 

Is Plastic Surgery Like an MBA?

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“Fat women earn less than slender women. Tall men earn more per inch than shorter men. Former cheerleaders are so much more successful than other demographics that there are recruiting agencies that specialize in cheerleaders.”

This is “reality” according to BNET writer and entrepreneur Penelope Trunk.She published an article earlier this year  ”Why Your Career Needs Plastic Surgery, Literally.” And Trunk makes some very bold claims including ”plastic surgery is like an MBA.”

Trunk’s argument is flawed. She forgot that there’s something more powerful than beauty: determination!

And people who have had to overcome adversity work harder than than people who have always been beautiful and privileged. Determination brings success.Successful people generally exude strength. Strength comes from an unwavering sense of self. Internal strength does not come from short-term self esteem band-aids like lip injections, liposuction and implants.

It’s disappointing that the loudest messages come from people like Penelope Trunk who have access to microphones, magazine pages and television cameras. Trunk’s advice is ill-informed and unrealistic.

The truth is respect from others follows respect for yourself. At the end of the day, it’s important to take care of yourself. As Suze Orman says, a “clean woman is a wealthy woman” (and that goes for men too). But there has to be a balance. It’s more important that your colleagues and clients respect you than want to date you.

Billions of dollars are generated every year from people who feel inadequate. People who spend their life savings on cosmetic surgeries promising a quick ticket to a better life. I’ve known many women who do exactly what Trunk advises. But I can tell you that most of these women don’t know who they are.

Do what you have to do to be confident in yourself….to be your authentic self. Remember–developing your mind and spirit will bring success!